With two weeks off from work, I’ve been dedicating my time to transforming my humble home. As a high school Special Education teacher, my daily life is often chaotic, leaving little time for the parts of my home—and myself—that need attention. Now, with the space to focus, I’ve developed a powerful practice to set myself up for success as I step into the New Year:
I ask myself, Does it come with me to 2025?
This question doesn’t just apply to material possessions. I’ve used it to declutter my email and digital life and, more importantly, to evaluate My St*ck and My St*ck Behavior.—the patterns and beliefs that no longer serve me.
I’m leaving behind in 2024 is my Avoidant Attachment Style. Avoidance has infiltrated every area of my life, not just intimate relationships. Dishes pile up in the sink? I’ll do it later. Papers overwhelming my office? I’ll get to it when I have time. Taking actionable steps toward my biggest dreams? Maybe after I tackle those dishes. Confessing my truest feelings to someone? Oh, look! More dishes!
For as long as I can remember, I’ve avoided the things I hold closest to my heart: writing books and creating a family of my own. But not anymore. Avoidance is staying behind in 2024, because goals without action are just dreams. I’m ready to bring my desires into physical reality.
To move forward, I have to let go of My St*ck that’s lying to me, telling me my dreams are out of reach. These beliefs stem from My Core Wounds that have shaped my life: my parents’ separation and divorce created the wound that fuels my avoidance of intimate relationships, and a traumatic brain injury from high school soccer shattered my dream of playing in college, leaving me with a fear of failing at big goals—like becoming a writer.
My St*ck and My St*ck Behaviors may have shielded me from pain and heartbreak, but they’ve also robbed me of joy, love, and the fulfillment of following my heart. Staying safe has meant staying small—and I’m done playing small!
In 2025, I’m taking Aligned Action. For my book, I’m committing to writing for two hours daily. For creating a family, the steps are less tangible, but I’ll continue therapy, meditation, and clearing energetic blockages around marriage. When I find myself in a committed relationship, I’ll prioritize developing a Secure Attachment Style and embracing open, honest communication.
What about you? How are you going about Un-St*ck-ing Yourself for the New Year? What no longer comes with you to 2025? What dreams are you finally ready to bring to life? Let’s make 2025 the year we move with Aligned Action toward the lives we’ve always imagined!
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