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Once you are emotionally regulated and attuned to safety (part 1), you can begin to bring consciousness toward the parts of yourself that you’ve avoided. This is a slow and gentle process, inviting the aspects of yourself you’ve suppressed, shamed or have avoided to be seen and validated.

Your Trigger is the portal to accessing Your Core Wound.

What is My Core Wound? you ask.

Your Core Wound is the original situation/memory during your formative years that caused you to experience emotional trauma, attachment trauma, or nervous system dysregulation. Essentially, after experiencing Your Core Wound, you were never attuned back to safety and security. 

Your Core Wound is the origin of Your St*ck, your limiting beliefs, and Your St*ck Behavior. Once you can access Your Core Wound and the emotions surrounding Your Core Wound, you can begin to transform and Free Your St*ck permanently at the energetic and emotional level.

While you can try and do this work solo, it is highly recommended to do this work with a trained professional, counselor, coach, therapist or safe and trusted friend or family member. Here are steps you can take to meet Your Core Wound and the feelings surrounding Your Core Wound:

• Gently Bring Your Core Wound Into Your Consciousness — You can start by bringing Your Core Wound, the memories behind your Your Core Wound into your mind’s eye. Recall who, where, what in the situation.

Pro Trip: Don’t get caught up in the story line, or the “why”. The “why” you created in your perception is from where Your St*ck originated.

• Gently Allow Emotions to Surface — If/when the difficult emotions arise while observing Your Core Wound, observe them with curiosity rather than condemnation. Ask yourself, What is this part of me trying to express? Allow yourself to express and feel the emotions. 

 Fun Fact: If you allow your emotions to move through you freely, you’ll likely only feel it for 60–90 seconds before it dissipates.

• Bring Your Awareness to Your Body Felt Sensations — Where in your body are you holding Your Core Wound and the emotions associated with it. Visualize it, describe it in terms of color, texture, taste, feeling, smell.
• Practice Radical Acceptance — Some parts of you carry deep pain, sadness or grief, but also hold wisdom. Accepting them as they are, without trying to fix or change them immediately, allows for genuine healing.
• Engage with These Parts — Through journaling or guided visualization, you can engage with these aspects of yourself, asking them what they need and listening with openness.

When you sit with Your Core Wound and the emotions enmeshed with it, something shifts. The shame or fear you once carried begin to loosen its grip, making space for Your Authentic Self to emerge. Growth is not about eliminating Your Trigger or Your Core Wound but learning how to hold them with compassion and acceptance. In doing so, you’ll find yourself more aware of Your Trigger, with more capacity for emotional regulation and Aligned Action instead of reactivity.

If you find yourself triggered this week, follow this guide to regulate yourself and pause. Ask yourself, What’s asking for my attention? What part of me is longing to be heard?

💬 Share in the comments: What triggered you this week and what Core Wound did it bring to the surface?

🌀 Message me if you’re curious about getting support on your journey to healing Your Core Wound, identifying Your Trigger and Freeing Your St*ck.