Do you notice yourself returning to Your St*ck Behavior even though you know that it isn’t in your best interest, or it isn’t aligned to your Authentic Self?
Your St*ck Behavior is hard to break because the pattern is engrained in your subconscious, and playing on repeat for years, more likely, for decades. Think of it as a well-worn groove that keeps getting deeper each time you choose it.
Which begs the question, How do you break Your St*ck Behavior?
First, it is important to understand how you create Your St*ck Behavior.
Although inconvenient and frustrating now, Your St*ck Behavior originally started as Your Coping Mechanism to keep you safe. Most likely, this happened at a time during your developmentally formative years when your nervous system felt overwhelmed, lacking safety, or unable to regain safety and connection after a period of perceived disconnection from your care givers.
For example, one of My St*ck Behaviors I’ve wanted to break is my emotional over-eating. Despite having the awareness witnessing myself binge eating, I still struggled to prevent myself from engaging in the behavior.
When I examined My St*ck Behavior with my therapist, I realized I emotionally overeat when experiencing strong “negative” emotions, more specifically, anger.
As a child, I never learned how to properly process and express my anger. I also learned that it was not safe to express big emotions, like anger, to my caregivers. If I did, they emotionally shut down or shut me out. This caused a perceived emotional disconnection from my caregivers, a perceived threat to my survival. But I learned to cope. To suppress my anger and to preserve emotional connection, I turned to food, eating until I couldn’t “feel” my anger any longer.
Ultimately, My Coping Mechanism became My St*ck Behavior once I realized it became a hinderance to me operating as my Authentic Self.
While I understand that Freeing Your St*ck Behavior can feel overwhelming, change is entirely possible.
Awareness is the first step. Noticing yourself acting out Your St*ck Behavior as an objective observer.
Analyze when/where you engage in Your St*ck Behavior. Are there certain places or certain situations where you engage in Your St*ck Behavior? You’ll start to notice patterns.
Ask yourself: What’s the motivation behind My St*ck Behavior? What need is it fulfilling?
Replace Your St*ck Behavior with Aligned Action. Now when I find myself wanting to binge eat, I stop, breathe and listen to my body, and allow the feelings to bubble to the surface. Acknowledging my emotions with grace and compassion allows them to alchemize quickly.
Celebrate small wins, have an accountbil-a-buddy, and understand setbacks are normal. Be kind to yourself as changing Your St*ck Behavior takes time and consistent effort. That is, unless you transform Your St*ck Behavior on an energetic level. That’s where my work comes in.
If you are interested in learning how to Free Your St*ck and transform Your St*ck Behavior into Aligned Action, message me for a 1:1 consultation.
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