Like it or not, we all talk to ourselves — often! Out loud, in our minds, and through the stories we repeat to others, the words we choose to talk to ourselves and about ourselves matter. What if some of the things you say to yourself every day, or you share with others regularly, are actually what’s keeping you stuck?
Limiting beliefs don’t always show up as obvious negativity. They often sound logical, responsible, even humble. Yet underneath the surface, they quietly reinforce the fear, the self-doubt, and the unworthiness we believe about ourselves. In the Un-St*ck Yourself! framework, I call these limiting beliefs “Your St*ck“.
Bringing awareness to when you’re speaking your limiting beliefs out loud is a powerful first step toward rewriting Your St*ck— and living from Your Authentic Self.
What Are Limiting Beliefs?
A limiting belief (Your St*ck)is any thought or assumption that keeps you stuck in the same job, relationship or situation, preventing you from getting what you truly want.
Although frustrating and terribly inconvenient, Your St*ck started as protective stories your brain created to keep you safe — shaped by childhood experiences, cultural conditioning, and past failures.
Over time, Your St*ck became so engrained in your subconscious that you started mistaking it for truth.
If your family or ancestors had a poor relationship with money, experienced poverty or scarcity, then you may hear yourself say:
“I’m just not good with money.”
If you’ve had a string of bad relationships, then you may continue to explain to friends:
“I always pick the wrong partners.”
If you were told multiple times by family, teachers or society that you can’t do something, then you may often think:
“I can’t do that — I’m too [insert derogatory adjective here].”
If you have a very strong sense of your ego self, or have a fixed mindset, then you may catch yourself thinking:
“That’s just the way I am.”
Any of these statements sound familiar? You might be saying these things without realizing you’re reinforcing your own limiting beliefs.
How to Know When You’re Speaking Your St*ck Out Loud
Here are some subtle signs and phrases to listen for, clues that your words may be coming from fear, not Your Authentic Self.
1. You Speak in Absolutes
Words like always, never, can’t, and should are classic red flags.
“I never finish what I start.”
“I can’t change careers now.”
“I should just be grateful for what I have.”
Absolutes create an invisible box around your potential. They close the door before you even try.
✨ Try this instead:
“I’ve struggled with follow-through before, but I’m learning new ways to stay consistent.”
2. You Use “Just” to Shrink Yourself
When you minimize your ideas or worth with language like:
“I’m just a mom.”
“I just do a little bit of coaching on the side.”
…you’re signaling to yourself (and others) that what you bring to the table isn’t valuable.
✨ Try this instead:
“I’m building my business while raising my family — and both matter deeply to me.”
3. You Explain Away Your Desires
If you catch yourself saying things like:
“I’d love to, but…”
“That would be nice, except…”
“Maybe someday when things calm down.”
That’s often your nervous system protecting you from potential failure or judgment.
✨ Try this instead:
“I want that — and I’m exploring what it would take to make it happen.”
4. You Dismiss Compliments or Success
How do you respond when someone praises you?
If your go-to is:
“Oh, it was nothing.”
“I just got lucky.”
“Anyone could have done it.”
…you’re rejecting evidence of your own growth. That’s your subconscious saying, I’m not worthy of good things yet.
✨ Try this instead:
“Thank you — I worked hard for that, and I’m proud of myself.”
5. You Talk More About Fear Than Possibility
When your language is dominated by what could go wrong —
“What if it doesn’t work?”
“What if I fail?”
“What if people don’t like it?”
— you’re reinforcing the belief that risk equals danger.
✨ Try this instead:
“What if it works better than I imagined?”
Rewriting the Narrative
Once you start noticing these patterns, don’t judge yourself — get curious.
Each limiting statement is just a signpost pointing to an unmet need or an old wound asking for attention.
Ask yourself:
- Where/when did I learn to believe this?
- Is this thought absolutely true?
- Who would I be without this belief?
The moment you bring awareness and question a limiting belief, it loses its power over you.
Your words are powerful. Every time you speak, you’re either reinforcing Your St*ck or rewriting a new one.
The next time you catch yourself saying something that feels small, limiting, or final — pause.
Take a breath.
And choose words that align with who you’re becoming, not who you’ve been.
Because when you change your language, you change your life. 💫
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